Tip #7: “Popularity” is crap; don’t waste your time.

Tip #7: “Popularity” is crap; don’t waste your time.

Interesting excerpt from this article about popularity in school:

“What makes kids outcasts in school—usually an unwillingness to conform—often translates into success as an adult. Many companies—including Yahoo!—prioritize hiring quirky individuals who shun conventional thinking. When you grow up, you see that the most popular kids aren’t necessarily the ones who come out on top, but you don’t understand that when you’re 11. Social science researchers are emphatic that it doesn’t guarantee adoration, either. ‘Being popular is not necessarily about being well-liked,’ says journalist Alexandra Robbins, who studied school society for her book The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth. ‘It’s more about clawing your way to the top of the social hierarchy and then working your tail off to stay there.'”

Translation: There’s no need to peak in high school.

Tip #6: (An oldie but a goodie) Sex Does Not Equal Love

Sex can be a part of love and love can be a part of sex, but one does not automatically equal the other. Thinking that having sex with someone will make them love you is not a reality. And someone telling you, “If you love me, you’ll have sex with me” is pure manipulation on their part.

If  love is something you require before you have sex, then own it. There is not a problem with that. You owe it to yourself to make 100% sure it’s the real deal before you make that decision.

This is your life, not anyone else’s. Make the right choices for you.

If I Were A Boy

I’ve never been a super huge Beyonce fan, but this music video is pretty powerful and gives me chills. I mean, that “Single Ladies” video was fun and all, but it was nothing like this one; had Kanye West interrupted Taylor Swift to say “If I Were A Boy” was one of the “best videos of all time” then maybe that whole spectacle wouldn’t have been so icky.

Tip #4: Sex

Sex and other sexual activity is supposed to be enjoyable; don’t let guys manipulate you or try and get you to feel bad about not wanting to go further than you want to. Instead of a guy getting pouty and mean about you not doing what he wants to do, how about turning it around on him and reminding him that a girl needs to be relaxed and “in the mood” in order to feel comfortable? Referring back to “Tip #2”, guys feel vulnerable when you tell them you’re not ready to go further.

The bottom line is don’t do something unless you want to do it!

Tip #3: Self-Esteem

In the film Mean Girls, Mr. Duvall (Tim Meadows) turns to Ms. Norbury (the great Tina Fey) to ask for help with the junior girls’ attitudes: “There has to be something you can say to these young ladies. Something to help them with their self-esteem?”

Ms. Norbury responds, “It’s not a self-esteem problem. I think they’re all pretty pleased with themselves.”

However, it has proven that it is, in fact, a self-esteem issue. Anyone who is mean to others for sport is unhappy. If you’re a truly happy person who is comfortable with yourself then you don’t have the desire to hurt anyone. Misery loves company. So that girl at school who seems so perfect and beautiful who is also nasty to other girls? She’s miserable. Just trust me on this.

The Opposite of Sex

Can I just say to all the girls out there…if you’re with a guy who groaned or made some crack during that little kiss…you’re with what we call a closet case. That’s the number one tip-off. Number two is if they freak out about gays in the military. You know, if they can’t discuss it without giggling about showering with guys…and bending over for soap and stuff. That’s not good. Real straight guys don’t spend a whole lot of time thinking about wet naked men, if you ask me.

-Dedee Truitt, voicing over a guy/guy kissing scene in one of my favorite films from high school “The Opposite of Sex”